My opinion is that most men are doing it totally wrong. Therefore, the one thing that I’m always lacking is time.

Almost daily, I see some loser guy acting like a savage in order to get a woman’s attention. But the reality though is that when women meet me, they immediately start thinking I’m a player once they find out I’m an r&b singer. I’m a digital marketing analyst, a singer, songwriter, producer and as of last year, I’ve been documenting all of my music experiences via my blog and as a contributing writer to Digital Music News. Aside from that – I have very ambitious long term career goals, and I’m pretty busy trying to achieve them.

As a result, women in New York (and most other places these days) have their guard up, and for good reason – there are tons of creeps out there ruining it for the rest of us. I had one girl ask me recently, In plain English, she wanted to know how many girls I’ve been with. I want to write a book, get my Ph D., land a publishing deal (with either Warner/Chappell, Sony/ATV, or Universal), win a Grammy, open a music studio in NYC, become a world class marketing consultant, and more.

• Work • Sleep • Family • Friends • Fitness That’s a bold statement, but I’d have to agree it’s kind of true.

For me personally, I’ve dedicated most of my time towards work, sleep, and friends.

Now this flat out sucks when it comes to fulfilling a woman’s every lingering desire, because time is the one thing that she will likely want the most.

I’ll be writing this article based on my personal experience as a single male musician.

I’m also based in New York City, which makes dating even harder.

But whether you’re a male or female in the music industry, there are various complexities that can make romance extremely challenging. • Musicians/Artists get panties (or bras, or boxer shorts) thrown at them.

Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. To every non-musician reading this, you’re just an outsider looking in. Here are some of the most common false truths about musicians when it comes to dating, especially for up-and-coming musicians: • Musicians/Artists get TONS of gorgeous women falling for them. Now I’ll be honest, I have my fair share of female supporters, but nothing comes close to an official ‘groupie’.

• Musicians/Artists regularly get groupies after all their shows. And to every dude dreaming of becoming a rock star just for the chicks, I may have just shattered your hopes and dreams.

Sorry (but not sorry), the truth is you’ll never make it on that motivation alone.