Or, one time I was dating this guy and he talked about how "stupid" his mother was. Let's say you just got back from Spain, or you have a trip planned to China. (That's what I would talk about if I had a first date tonight.) Or, you are learning Spanish. I'm not saying to tell your date you want to be married within the year, but saying, "I'm really looking to fall in love," or "I would like to be married again someday," aren't forbidden.

First dates are all about figuring out if you want to have a relationship with this person. You might disagree with me, but I think it's okay to talk about love and relationships, and what you think makes a good one.

And so much of that comes down to having things in common.

Plus, it sparks interesting, thoughtful conversation. I know you are busy, but you can get caught up on world news if you invest even 15 minutes a day reading the paper or news online. Your date went out for dinner with you to get to know YOU, and the best way he or she can do that is to hear you talk about your kids or your family, the people you are closest to. Those who go to their jobs only to bring home a paycheck, and those who truly have passion for what they do.

I always like to watch a man's expression when he talks about his kids. If you are the former, keep your job description brief and instead talk about your hobbies and/or interests outside of the office. Offer your date the things you love about yourself; your passion, your heart, your humor, perhaps. Jackie Pilossoph is the author of the blog, Divorced Girl Smiling.

That tells me everything I need to know about what kind of father and person he is. By the way, I have nothing against people who work for a paycheck. I'm just saying, whatever you talk about with your date, talk about it with passion and happiness, versus "My boss is an a-hole."Good topic: hobbies, interests, travel. In closing, of all the first date tips I can give, the best one is to just be yourself. She is also the author of her new divorce novel with the same name, as well as her other divorce novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE. Pilossoph is a weekly business features reporter and columnist for Sun-Times Media.

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🔥Surefire Tips to Instantly Boost Your Sex Appeal 👸💣 ... They usually consist of moments of awkward silence, fear of having food between your teeth, wondering if he noticed your nervousness, thinking you said something really stupid and wishing you could take it back, and the worst one, trying to think of what the heck you should talk about!One of my tips was: Don't talk about why you got divorced for more than a few minutes. Because your date might be going through his or her own divorce, and is probably viewing dating as refreshing.The last thing he or she wants to do is relive your divorce, hear your complaints and analyze what your ex spouse might or might not be thinking and feeling.Besides not talking about your divorce, there are other topics of conversation you should stay away from on a first date.There are also some great topics that are perfect for a first date; topics that will spark intellectual, emotional and positive conversation, hopefully resulting in a second date! If you aren't already watching the news and reading the paper, please start.