So then, how do we make relationships work and stay happy?We begin with the understanding of what pure love is, and then redefine and update the romantic fairytale into a healthier type of love.

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I thought, marry a prince—but a prince who is also human, who has faults and issues just like every person, no matter how wonderful he is.

At some point I grew up and learned to let go of the crazy metaphor of romantic love in order to find true happiness.

Yes, I was disappointed to realize that the knight riding through the night to save the damsel in distress is a fallacy. But, let’s look at it in this light: We all saw Unavailability fuels the romantic expression.

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -~Sam Keen Before I married my wonderful husband, I dated a lot of men.

For most of my 20s (and even my early 30s) I had a perfect fairy-ideal of what romantic love was, probably because I was an actress and loved drama back then.

It took years for me to realize a relationship is not a romance movie.

At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in films, television, and novels.

This kind of romantic story can only work when there is an absence of the lover.

Sometimes, they have to die in the end in order for their love to fit into this romantic view.