Don’t throw away the new you for a new relationship. Take Your Time and Don’t Forget the Work You’ve Done Once you are strong in your commitment to yourself and have moved past thinking about your ex, you can focus on the real compatibility of a new love interest. ” is important in that you want someone who sees the value in you and who understands that you are a special person.

If you are not getting that feedback early on, it’s time to move on.

back to dating-15

You may think that you’re ready to find your forever love (and you may be); or you may need to date for a while, pull back, and then go back out; or you may need to continue to work on your issues and your list while you “date casually.” It’s important that at some point you take some time to change or enhance your life– whether it’s through the Getting Past Your Breakup progam, traditional therapy, employing Eastern philosophies such as mindfulness and meditation, 12-step programs, reading many self-help books, or all of the above.

Recognize that your post-breakup time is a journey of self-discovery that can take a while, even years.

This doesn’t mean you can’t date for 10 years, but that you have to continue your self-discovery work even after you get into a new relationship.

Getting Ready to Get Back Out There After a breakup, one challenge you’ll encounter is learning to rebuild your life while valuing yourself as a single person.

This can be quite the task in the face of either a rejection by someone you truly cared for or a relationship that simply didn’t work.

You may now be considering some kind of foray back into the world of dating.

Being ready doesn’t necessarily mean being fully recovered from all that’s happened to you in former relationships or in childhood.

It’s true that there’s probably no way to stay out of a relationship until you’ve worked through issues that may have contributed to problematic relationships.

However, you have to keep working as an individual, and perhaps as a couple, once you find a good mate.